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Healing Stones

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The Blacks Hills of South Dakota, Yellowstone National Parks and the Grand Canyon were fertile grounds to pick up stones…those that drew me. I was eleven years old.
Time has not changed me. My basement holds paper bags, tin containers, and plastic bags with wrapped stones in them.

ANGER: EIGHT IDEAS TO TRY OR TO PONDER

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Comic Donald Glover offers this joke: One thing I’ve learned from my last relationship is that if an argument starts with “What did you mean by that?” it’s not going to end with “Now I know what you mean by that.”

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if conversations between support people and people with bipolar disorder ended up as a comedian’s joke.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if a little biofeedback, meditation, prayer, distraction like a shower would cool the heat of rage. Bipolar disorder does not leave a lot of room for “cool”.

ACCEPTING YOUR DIAGNOSIS: TWO VOICES

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Can’t I “have” some other explanation for my behavior? How about a lousy childhood or anxious or unreliable or just in the dumps or Seasonal Affective Disorder… Not BIPOLAR DISORDER. Making the decision to accept the diagnosis may take many hypomanic/depressive episodes or maybe even years. Yet reality is reality. If we could get an x-ray of our brain that showed our disease then accepting the disorder might be easier.

We know the downside of this disorder; ask yourself, “What’s the benefits?”

LISA’S STORY

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After a long day of taking care of sick people, Lisa returns to her apartment feeling tired and weepy. Each day more people are admitted to the surgical unit and for Lisa that means more intense work–listening to new people telling their long and sometimes boring stories and then working more closely with the medical team. Both functions irritate her more and more and exhausts her more and more. It must be her age she tells herself, more aches and pains than just a few months ago. And then, rotten hospital administrators. They don’t know a surgical scissors from a kitchen scissors.

OUR SACRED PATH

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Survey after survey reveals that most people believe there is a power in the universe that is greater than us. Some people refer to this power as God, some as universal truth, others as divine spark, others as inner mindfulness and the list goes on and on.

In every moment in our lives we use thoughts and feelings to guide us through decisions and actions. Each moment in our lives also includes a spiritual presence. Given we can not separate our mind and from our body we cannot isolate our spiritual life. All is mix up together all the time.

MOVING FORWARD ONE STEP AT A TIME

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In a recent support group for those with mood disorders one middle aged man shared, “This time I think I have put all my ducks in order”.

A year ago he had to leave his education program because he had mood episodes that made it impossible to continue his dream of securing credentials that would allow him to find secure full-time employment. Instead he received “Fs” in all his classes.

Movie the “Interns”: Fun movie—Great two messages

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The movie made me laugh and reminded me how much I enjoy rooting for the underdog. It must be because sooner or later the “underdog” experience is in nearly everyone’s resume.

On the drive home I thought about two messages that may apply to people with bipolar disorder and their friends and family.

FORGIVENESS: EIGHT STEPS TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT

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The practice of forgiveness is something many of us don’t know how to do or want to do. Hundreds of books, articles, book chapters, speeches, seminars, numerous biblical teachings and hours in therapy have informed us that forgiveness is an essential path to spiritual deepening. For people with mood disorders this process is part of the journey to our mental health and self-love.

The following eight steps are designed to provide help in the tough process of forgiving ourselves and others:

1. ACHKNOWLEDDGE to yourself the person you have hurt. FEEL the guilt and regret.

DOUBT: A SPIRITUAL GIFT

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Who hasn’t asked themselves life’s deepest questions: Why am I here? What is the purpose for my life? Do I really matter? Is there a God? Where is God when I am in despair?

And who hasn’t walked a few days in the dessert with answers like: I am not good enough. I don’t measure up. Things seem to be so easy for others. I keep making the same mistakes. I hope no one notices that I do not know the answers as to who I am.

We doubt ourselves.

No wonder we doubt that God exists, or God is good or God knows each person.

A TALE OF SCARCITY AND ABUNDANCE

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SCARCITY:
During the depressive mood swing a person with bipolar disorder and friends and family may feel they live in scarcity. Nothing seems to be going right. Feelings of inadequacies, fear, anger, hopelessness and despair can dominant each person’s life.

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